WHY I SPEND MY MONEY ON EXPERIENCES RATHER THAN THINGS

Wednesday, June 7, 2017

by Sara

Some weeks ago I stumbled upon this pretty interesting article on Forbes, which made me reflect about one question for days:

Do material things really make us happy?

For all those who asked me how come I still have no expensive designer bag even though I blog about fashion and probably could afford it, keep reading if you want the answer :).

AUF DEUTSCH LESEN

Coincidentally, at the same time I started thinking about the question of  happiness and material things, the same question arose in our group chat as Kaja bought something that was on her wish list for a long time. She asked us: “Guys, do you know this situation when you buy something you wanted for such a long time and as soon as you got it, it was like all the same? Do I have a problem?”.

No, my dear. You don’t have a problem. Actually, I guess that everyone of us knows situations like these quite well. It just seems that material things make us happy only for a short period of time.

I mean, just think of an expensive object you bought yourself some time ago. Does this thought evoke a feeling of happines deep within you? Let me guess… It doesn’t. This may be due to the fact that we get used to things pretty quickly and don’t find them interesting any more. Now try to think of a certain trip or experience you made? Does this memory evoke hapinnes within you? In my case it really does. No matter if it’s a trip, a good dinner or just a stroll I took with a beloved person that will stay in my mind forever. It’s mostly about the little things that remind us of how beautiful life really is.

But isn’t it odd that tangible things we look at very day make us less happy than the ones that eventually only last in our memories?

This very article I read gets to the heart of it. Material things don’t make us happy for the following reasons:

  • We get used to things pretty quickly
  • We always want more and more and better and better
  • We always compare ourselves to others

Last year I decided to start saving money for a certain bag I wanted to buy. And I really managed to save enough money to afford it. However, thank God I read this and many other articles on materialism and minimalism and started to reflect a lot about these topics, which made me change my mind and instead of buying the bag I decided to invest the money for a trip to New York City with my dear Timo. At some point I asked myself:

Do I really want to spend the money, I worked so hard for, on one tiny bag?

No, I don’t! Unfortunately I still don’t earn that much to be able to just buy a designer bag without thinking. If this was the case, I would probably buy it. Why not? However, as long as I have to save money for months in order to afford one designer piece, I won’t do it. It just isn’t worth it.

Indeed I know some people who have a pretty remarkable collection of designer pieces, but never set a foot in a country away from Europe – because they rather invest in things than in trips. I really try to understand this, but somehow I can’t. However, as long as the person is happy that way, it’s ok. Just doesn’t work for me. Especially nowadays, when thanks to Instagram trends become stale so quickly I rather invest my money on new memories I will have my whole life instead of one piece of clothing I won’t like in a couple of months anymore.

 

Now, what’s your opinion on this topic?

7 Responses
  • Abi
    June 7, 2017

    I really enjoyed this blog post so much, that is exactly what me and my friends are on it !!
    Well, first of all i will congratulate you on the decision you made concerning NYC trip over your designer bag, my dear you will not regret it at, it’s worth to experience ( Memories) something no one can take away from you and besides life isn’t all about designer Goodies, your happiness can’t be compared with a designer bag ….
    As far as you’re young and without children, please take the opportunity to expirence your time before it’s too late ( that’s what i tell people who have no children) !!
    Wish you all the best
    Waiting for NYC blog post and pictures
    Hugs 🤗 🤗
    Abi

    • The Cosmopolitas
      June 9, 2017

      Oooh, thank you so much my dear!!!! You’re totally right. I guess, at least in the first couple of years with a baby it’s almost impossible to travel somewhere far away. And I also think NYC is always a great idea :D. The city is just incredible!!!

  • Yasmin
    June 8, 2017

    I’m with you. I don’t own any designer handbags, but still covet them. But I’d rather spend my hard earned/saved cash on something more worthwhile. I feel like a lot of these designer handbags are popular for a season until next year’s “it bag” and I can’t imagine buying a new bag every year. Anyways, trips all the way!

    xx Yasmin
    http://banglesandbungalows.com

  • Anita
    June 8, 2017

    Liebe Sara, du sprichst mir absolut aus der Seele! Mir ging es fast jedes Mal ähnlich wie Kaja als ich mir einen teuren Wunsch erfüllt habe – das Gefühl der erhofften Euphorie ist entweder gleich verpufft oder gar nicht erst eingetreten. Und danach war das Wunschding wie ein Brandmal, dass mich an das “verschwendete” Geld erinnert hat.
    Ich bin jetzt mehr denn je ebenfalls der Meinung, dass Erinnerungen einen unersetzlichen Wert haben und auch wenn sie verblassen sollten immer noch wertvoller sind als eine Designertasche.

    xoxo Anita

    • The Cosmopolitas
      June 9, 2017

      Liebe Anita,

      jaaa, das ist bei mir genauso. Danach habe ich oft auch Gewissensbisse, wieso ich so viel Geld für eine Sache ausgegeben habe :D.

  • amely rose
    June 9, 2017

    Wundervoll geschrieben!
    Manchmal kaufe auch ich mir eine Tasche oder Jacke die ich seit Monaten anschmackte, aber leider ist selbst bei materiellen Dingen schnell die Freude dran vorbei. Ich muss zugeben, für mich ist Luxus nicht das neuste IPhone zu haben oder eine Designertasche,
    sondern Erinnerungen die man ein Lebenlang hat.
    Ich stimme dir da so zu.
    Toller Post, wundervolle Worte und atemberaubend schöne Bilder.

    alles Liebe deine Amely Rose schau dir gerne meinen London Vlog an

  • Hadasah Love | Style To Love
    June 9, 2017

    I love these shots babe!
    muah!! hadasah//www.styletolove.com

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